Is Insomnia Making Your World Smaller?

My fridge broke a few days ago.

Thankfully, I have a regular-size refrigerator downstairs in the basement and a very small refrigerator upstairs. Normally, I have one working, full-size refrigerator in my kitchen, so the little fridge upstairs is simply a convenience. It holds a few drinks, some yogurts, and whatever else I happen to put in it.

But when my kitchen fridge stopped working, that tiny refrigerator suddenly became very important.

I started making do with whatever was upstairs. If there was yogurt, I'd eat a yogurt. If there were leftovers, I'd have those. If there wasn't anything I wanted, I might simply skip lunch. Going downstairs wasn't difficult. I just couldn't be bothered.

It was easier to make do with less.

After two or three days, I realized that my eating habits had gotten smaller and smaller. I wasn't consciously deciding to eat less. I had simply started choosing whatever required the least effort.

That's when I realized something: my world had become smaller.

That made me think about what happens when someone lives with insomnia for weeks, months, or even years.

When you aren't sleeping well, you're not starting each day with the same physical and mental resources you would have after restorative sleep. Concentration can become more difficult, emotions can be harder to regulate, and everyday decisions can feel more demanding. Even ordinary tasks can require more effort.

So you begin conserving your energy.

You may stop making plans because you don't know how you'll feel tomorrow. You may turn down invitations, stop exercising, avoid socializing, or choose the easiest option simply because you don't have the energy for anything else.

Your life doesn't suddenly become smaller. It happens gradually, through hundreds of tiny decisions to do less, go less, and ask less of yourself, and eventually, you may find yourself living within a much smaller world than you once did.

If this sounds familiar, this is exactly the kind of work I do with my clients. I help people look beyond the sleepless night and understand what may be keeping their mind and body from sleeping well in the first place. If insomnia has started affecting the way you live your days, reach out to me. You don't have to keep building your life around how tired you might be. https://calendly.com/chevymermelstein/30min

I once had a client tell me, “I long for the day to end, and I dread the evening.”

That sentence says so much about chronic insomnia. You're exhausted all day and desperately want the day to be over, but when evening arrives, you don't feel relief. You feel anxiety because bedtime has become associated with another night of lying awake, wondering whether sleep will come.

My broken fridge will eventually be fixed. I'll have my normal, full-size refrigerator back in my kitchen, and the little fridge upstairs can go back to being what it was meant to be: a convenient place to keep a few cold drinks.

But insomnia doesn't work that way.

There isn't a technician you can call who can simply repair your sleep and put everything back the way it was.

To change chronic insomnia, you have to understand why your sleep has become disrupted in the first place. Is your mind constantly racing? Is your body dealing with stress or another imbalance? Have you developed patterns around sleep that are keeping the problem going? Are you spending so much time worrying about sleep that bedtime itself has become stressful?

The answer isn't always the same for everyone. That's why simply trying harder to sleep isn't always enough.

When you understand what is actually keeping you awake, you can begin addressing the problem rather than continuing to work around it.

Because that's what I was doing with my refrigerator.

I wasn't fixing the problem. I was adapting to it.

I was eating whatever was easiest to reach and skipping meals rather than walking downstairs. I was making my life fit around a temporary problem.

Sometimes, that's what happens with insomnia. You adapt. You make fewer plans. You do fewer things. You conserve your energy. You stop expecting as much from yourself.

Until one day, you realize how small your life has become.

Sleep shouldn't require you to build a smaller life around your exhaustion.

The goal isn't simply to get through another night. It's to get back to living a life that feels full, possible, and yours again.

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