When the Miracle Happens… and You Disappear

Clients come to me struggling — sometimes with themselves, sometimes with their kids. I guide them, coach them, walk alongside them through sleepless nights, anxious mornings, and overwhelming days. I cheer them on through the small wins, help them navigate setbacks, and celebrate when the pieces finally click. And then… poof. They disappear.

The other day, I got a message from someone I’d never spoken to before. She’s an avid reader of my daily blog, but this note stopped me in my tracks:

“As someone who suffers from pregnancy-induced insomnia (is there even such a thing?), I’ve been following your posts with avid interest. About a month ago, I changed one small thing in my life and have not suffered insomnia since! Please email me so I can share my miracle.”

And then… nothing.

No follow-up. No reply. No shared miracle. Just silence.

At first, I was curious, maybe even a little frustrated. I wanted to know what she did. I wanted to celebrate her success. I wanted to hear about the impact. But then it hit me — this is classic human nature. And it’s something I see all the time, not just in sleep coaching.

Why we complain faster than we say thanks

Humans are wired to react to problems. When something goes wrong, we complain. We demand answers. We share frustrations — loudly, quickly, and often repeatedly. Research confirms it: complaints and negative feedback travel faster than positive stories.

In everyday life, studies show that the average person complains more than four times a day.

Meanwhile, gratitude travels much more slowly. In one study, only 23% of participants who wrote gratitude letters actually sent them.

Translation: we’re quick to scream, slow to say thanks. We report what’s wrong, but we vanish when things go right.

For coaches, therapists, and friends — the ghosting stings

When someone doesn’t circle back to share their “miracle update,” it leaves us hanging. We wonder: Did it really work? How did it feel? What changed?

And here’s the kicker: the silence isn’t just awkward — it’s a missed opportunity. Sharing successes inspires others. It reinforces the change. It completes the loop. One small victory can ripple far beyond the person experiencing it.

You can see this in action in my previous blog, The Client Who Made Me Doubt Myself… Until She Didn’t. A single success story can spark confidence, hope, and courage in others — but only if it’s shared.

What if we rewired human nature — just a little?

Imagine a world where, when something goes right, we go back. We share the update. We say thanks. Gratitude research shows that this isn’t just a feel-good gesture — it strengthens prosocial behavior and inspires more helping, sharing, and connection.

Closing the loop honors the effort. It celebrates progress. And it can encourage others still struggling to take the next step.

A “thank you” call to action (with a dash of humor)

If you’ve ever worked hard — professionally or personally — to help someone sleep, heal, or grow, this is for you.

If you’ve ever felt stuck, overwhelmed, or doubted that a small change could make a difference, this is also for you.

Here’s my tongue-in-cheek call to action: if one of my blogs, a coaching session, or even a tiny tip helped you — send me a message. Tell me your win. Share your miracle. Heck, even send a “thank you.” I might do a happy dance in my living room. 💃

Book a chat here: 30-minute session — I’d be delighted to celebrate with you.

Because human nature might be wired for complaints, urgency, and reactions — but it can also be rewired for gratitude, reflection, and celebration. Go ahead… close the loop. Share the good news. Celebrate your wins. And maybe, just maybe, the world will feel a little lighter, a little brighter.